If you have your husband’s children from previous marriage, by all means love them as you would your own. This is a huge statement to him about the quality of the woman he found in you. Stepchildren can always use another positive influence in their lives. Make sure you are one. If you have your own children as well as his, don’t show favoritism. They are all yours now and need the same love and affection. No one can replace their own mother, but you can learn to be a friend. It’s not always easy, but he will love you all the more for loving his children.