What is Romance really?
Romance: -came from the word Romans, which comes from French literature based chiefly on legend; chivalric love; adventure; supernatural or fiction love story…
-mark by the imagination or the emotional appeal of heroic, mysterious or idealized. Denotes to something that is unreal, impractical and imaginary; no basis in fact; impractical conception, product of emotions and our unwanted feeling or passion, sentimental or imaginative feelings of being in a love affair with our own Romeos…
So where does Romance come from?
It came from the world…centers on external trappings; perpetuates a sentimental aspect of a relationship; or deception…One concrete example of this is TV, Movies, Music. So does this mean that we do not watch TV or Movies anymore? Of course not…But what I am saying is TV and Movies makes us dream of our own Romeos and compare our partners with those that we see in the movies…Why can’t you give me flowers? Why will you not treat me out to an expensive dinner? Why can’t you give me a diamond? Even if we do not actually say it, we ask ourselves these questions…Thus this would make us feel insecure, discontented and compare our partner with others and end up dissatisfied and in the end trapped in an unhappy relationship… Music- we like to listen to sad, tragic songs if we feel down…I wonder why we always want these type of songs if we are sad…Why cant we listen to happy upbeat songs if we are blue? Why can’t we dance and just spin around and around… because these songs are made to even make us savor our sadness, our emptiness and our pain…so why not listen to happy songs instead?
It came from our flesh…So what does this mean? It means we dream more of the tall, dark & handsome Romeos. We dream about them sometimes fantasize about them…Not just women but men as well. They dream of that sexy blond chick in their two-piece… What about the not sexy blond chick? Do men dream about them? I doubt…but for all we know, they are loyal, supportive, understanding and all positive adjectives we could describe her… I don’t say that being beautiful is bad because there are some woman born beautiful inside and out…What I am saying here is sometimes, it’s our flesh that dictates us to be Romantic…
It came from temptation…is this a sin? A big NO! I say temptation because it corrupts people mind of what real love is…Real love does not compare, does not judge but just love…Pure love…That’s just it…Not Romance but LOVE is what matters…if we have this we make this Journey a Beautiful one…